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Hey folks,

I want to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas. This will be my final post until January, as I will be heading to New York to see Brit (who is coming up from Costa Rica).

I am also excited to announce that I will be part of a "merging of blogs" starting in January.
robdale.ca
jasonboucher.com
confessions of a Pastor's Wife.com

will all be coming together as a unifying voice under the name slices of life.

If you receive my blog via RSS feed, I would encourage you to take a minute right now and subscribe to slicesoflife.ca (feed URL is: http://feeds.feedburner.com/slicesoflifeca )

Here's a short video talking about the new site:

About a month ago, I posted a blog called "What If Starbucks Marketed Like the Church." You can watch it here.

It was done by the folks over at Beyond Relevance.

Today, they posted an interested discussion about the language we use within the church. Here's the post:

The Video: Speaking Starbucksian

There
is no doubt that Starbucks has their own language. Tall, Grande,
Venti… (Let's call it Starbucksian). For the most part, churches have
their own language too. Having your own language is sometimes a
valuable weapon in your marketing arsenal, but yielded without planning
and precision, it can be deadly to your culture. Basically, it’s a
two-edged sword. On one hand, if you don’t know the language, you feel
lost and on the "outside." However, if you know the language, you feel
"included," special and "in-the-know."

"Code" language is a very
insider thing. Many churches will ask, if insider language is a bad
thing, why does Starbucks do it? Simple. They want insiders. As an
outsider, you learn the secret code by ordering a drink. If you don’t
know it, someone is standing right there, looking you in the face and
helping you engage your transition between outsider and insider. They
are there to even suggest a drink. When someone has a puzzled look on
their face, you quickly hear… "Would you like something hot or cold?"
"Would you like something sweet?" They are literally trained to
identify a newcomer and immediately make them comfortable without any
kind of embarrassment. They are "hands on" to steer you into an
addictive Mocha Frappucino. After you visit about three times, you are
the master. You’ve got your drink and your size down pat. You’re an
insider now. The bridge to that point was built very deliberately by
Starbucks themselves in an effort to create insiders. Brilliant!

Now,
why is this not working so well for churches? One, most churches speak
Christian-ese not as a bridge to gain insiders, but as a validation
tool with other insiders. AKA: I prove my spirituality in the number of
three-syllable Bible words I can say. As churches, we often make it
difficult for visitors to understand our code. We don’t have
interpreters waiting to greet visitors at the front door, their job
solely to explain everything we intend to say. When someone does
indicate they might not know our ways, many churches throw them under
the bus and make a show of them—asking them to stand up, raise their
hands, and fill out forms.

If the visitor tries to follow along,
our insider jokes and language—the very stuff that rallies the troops
and makes believers feel like they’re in the cool "in-crowd" (the “God
is good…. All the time” stuff from the video)—all of those insider jokes just remind them that they’re outsiders.

What's
the key? Just that: a key. It’s like a map that you need to read the
key to understand the symbols. The key is a bridge. The key is an
explanation. Without explanation, you leave outsiders out. Without the
barista telling me what the stuff is, I’m lost. With the barista
carefully explaining the coded language, I’m on my way to becoming an
insider. So, insider language in itself is not the issue unless it is
left to resolve with out deliberate explanation.

Make this
commitment: never let a service take place where you don’t break down
church vocabulary for the visitors present and tell them the story
behind our inside jokes. The secret behind this is two-fold: if you
commit to it, 1) you’ll build stronger bridges and 2) you’ll get tired
of bringing in so much context to all your insider verbiage, that
you'll cut it down to the minimum.

As a church, do you have your
own language? Do your inside jokes leave an outsider feeling further
outside? It’s time to build a bridge. Change your language or commit to
bridge-building. Without it, your church might be good at winning over
other Christians, but you will leave a lost and dying world dying to
know what you’re talking about.

Slicing It Up

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

It's always fun to slice things up and try something new. Don't you think?

Stay tuned, you just might enjoy how it's sliced!

Email From Jesus

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

Jesus sent me this recently, I thought it was worth passing along. (Note: I can't verify that it was actually Jesus who sent the email, but I really don't have any reason to doubt that it might be):

Dear Children, 
It has come to my attention that many of you are upset that folks are taking My name out of the season. Maybe you've forgotten that I wasn't actually born during this time of the year and that it was some of your predecessors who decided to celebrate My birthday on what was actually a time of pagan festival; although, I do appreciate being remembered any time.
How I personally feel about this celebration can probably be most easily understood by those of you who have been blessed with children of your own. I don't care what you call the day. If you want to celebrate My birth just, GET ALONG AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER.
Now, having said that, let Me go on. 
If it bothers you that the town in which you live doesn't allow a scene depicting My birth, then just get rid of a couple of Santa’s and snowmen and put a small Nativity scene on your own front lawn. If all My Followers did that there wouldn't be any need for such a scene on the Town square because there would be many of them all around town.
Stop worrying about the fact that people are calling the tree a holiday tree, instead of a Christmas tree. It was I who made all trees. You can and may remember Me anytime you see any tree. Decorate a grape vine If you wish: I actually spoke of that one in a teaching that explains Who I am in relation to you and what each of our tasks are. If you have forgotten that one, look at John 15:1-8 .
If you want to give Me a present in remembrance of My birth here is My Wish list. Choose something from it. 

1. Instead of writing protest letters objecting to the way My Birthday is being celebrated, write letters of love and hope to soldiers away from home. They are terribly afraid and lonely this time of year. I know, they tell Me all the time.
2. Visit someone in a nursing home. You don't have to know them personally. They just need to know that someone cares about them.
3. Instead of writing the Prime Minister, Mayor, or School Principal complaining about the wording on the cards his staff sent out this year, why don't you write and tell him that you'll be praying for him and his family this year. Then follow up. It will be nice hearing from you again.
4. Instead of giving your children a lot of gifts you can't afford and they don't need, spend time with them. Tell them the story of My birth and why I came to live with you down here. Hold them in your arms and remind them that I love them.
5. Pick someone that has hurt you in the past and forgive him Or her.
6. Did you know that someone in your town will attempt to take their own life this season because they feel so alone and hopeless? Since you don't know who that person is, try giving everyone you meet a warm smile; it could make the difference. Also, you might consider supporting the local Hot-Line: they talk with people like that every day.
7. Instead of nit picking about what the retailer in your town calls the holiday, be patient with the people who work there. Give them a warm smile and a kind word. Even if they aren't allowed to wish you A "Merry Christmas," that doesn't keep you from wishing them one. Then stop shopping there on Sunday. If the store didn't make so much money on that day, they'd close and let their employees spend the day at home With their families.
8. If you really want to make a difference, support a missionary, especially one who takes My love and Good News to those who have never heard My name. You may already know someone like that.
9. There are individuals and whole families In your town who not only will have no "Christmas" tree, but neither will they have any presents to give or receive. If you don't know them
(and I suspect you don't), buy some food and a few gifts and give them to The Marines, the Salvation Army or some other charity that believes in Me and they will make the delivery for you.
10. Finally if you want to make a statement about your belief In and loyalty to Me, then behave like a Christian. Don't do things in secret that you wouldn't do in My presence. Let people know by your actions that you are one of mine.
P.S. Don't forget; I am God and can take care of Myself. Just love Me and do what I have told you to do. I'll take care of all the rest. Check out the list above and get to work; time is short. I'll help you, but it is now up to you. I'll do My job, and I will help you do your job. And do have a most blessed Christmas with all those you love. And, remember, I LOVE YOU.
Jesus

Shhhh

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

Yeah, I know. Very quiet. 'Tis the season, I guess.

I can promise you this: changes are coming in January, and there should be more to follow. In the mean time, thanks for your patience!

The Mom Song

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

Gotta send this out … very creative and funny.


The Mom Song from Northland Video on Vimeo.

My Favourite Song

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

Once in awhile, someone will ask me if I have a favourite song. To be honest, there are many songs that I would consider in a top list, some that touch me at a very spiritual level.

One of my all time favourite songs would have to be "Find Me In The River" by delirious. You can listen to it here: Download 06 Find Me In the River

Find Me In The River


Find me in the river


Find me on my knees


I've walked against the water


Now I'm waiting if you please




We've longed to see the roses


But never felt the thorns


And bought our pretty crowns


But never paid the price




Find me in the river


Find me there


Find me on my knees with my soul laid bare


Even though you're gone and I'm cracked and dry


Find me in the river, I'm waiting here




Find me in the river


Find me on my knees


I've walked against the water


Now I'm waiting if you please




We didn't count on suffering


We didn't count on pain


But if the blessing's in the valley


Then in the river I will wait


I Am Embarrassed

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

Well, I have been silent on the Canadian Political crisis up to this point. The past few days, my good friend Jason Boucher has posted some excellent posts on the subject. You can read post #1 and post #2 of his blog to get a decent sense of how I feel about things. I think he has posted some excellent questions.

However, I just can't stay quiet any longer. I cannot think of a time in my life when I have been more embarrassed of the behaviour of our politicians than now.

Let me make it clear: none of the parties are Innocent in this behaviour. The Conservatives acted like bullies, pushing through policies as if they were a Majority Government simply because they knew the Liberals were wounded and unable to fight back without a leader in place.

But that isn't a good enough excuse for what the Liberals, NDP and the Bloc are doing together. This coalition, while legal and certainly within our constitution, is simply wrong. I'm sorry, but the only time such a drastic measure should be put into practice is when things are so bad that to not act would destroy the country. (And yes, I know some of you would like to jump in right now and suggest that is exactly WHY the coalition is acting now).

Our Country is not about to fall apart. We have one of the strongest economic bases of any G8 country. While we are part of a GLOBAL financial crisis, as a Nation, we are doing much better than other countries. AND, the idea of pumping Billions of dollars (BILLIONS!!) into bailouts is a very controversial way of trying to solve this financial crisis. Don't forget people, that is OUR money that is being used in an unproven way of trying to save companies that perhaps shouldn't be saved.

The point is this: the Canadian people didn't vote Liberal or NDP or Bloc. It was clear after the election that many people intentionally voted against the Liberals simply because they wanted nothing to do with Stephan Dion as Prime Minister. And now, that is what we are being forced to accept. A man representing our Country that the MAJORITY of Canadians clearly did not want as our representative.

Now we have May jumping on the bandwagon, hoping for a Senate position. In her press conference today, she made a ridiculous statement: that she would be the first Senator appointed who had more than 1 Million votes. EARTH TO MAY: You didn't get a Million votes. You got a few thousand votes … AND … you lost your own election!

If I had my way – and I know that this wont happen in a million years – I would love to see ALL four leaders (Harper, Dion, Layton, Duceppe) resign from leadership. It is time for new faces. Will it happen? Of course not. These fools are simply too busy playing games.

If I sound angry in this post, it's because I am. I have never been more angry at what is happening on the political scene in this country. I am embarrassed.

The sad thing is that most Canadians will simply roll over and let these fools play their political game. We'll do nothing. And sadly, many of us will vote them into power in the next election. Actually, what will likely happen is most of us simply wont vote in the next election. Why bother if six weeks later it doesn't make a difference?

Canadian Politics

Posted by Rob under Random Thoughts

I don't think I've ever been as embarrassed as a Canadian as I am right now.

I was going to write a long post about it, but Jason Boucher put it perfectly on his blog today.

You have to know Mac culture to truly appreciate this: